Welcome Tina Alexander, wife to John, momma to Caleb & Jack ,co-founder of How It Should Have Ended, and my friend of over a decade. She is our third guest to post in our series, “Hearing from Today’s Mom.”

I am so thankful that I grew up with a mom that I don’t recall ever dieting and never seemed to obsess about her weight or appearance. I am very aware of the positive impact that must have had on me as a teenager and where I placed my own value. It’s my hope that my nieces will know their full value as women too and all the unique ways God made them.

As a mom of boys I recognize I’m the most important woman in their life right now (and I want to be). I want them to think of my value to the world as far greater than just my physical appearance.

I know their view of women starts with me and what I esteem and respect about myself will be the things they esteem and respect about other women one day. While I hope that they see me as physically strong and healthy, I also want them to see how much I value the other gifts God has given me so much more.

I hope they seek out my advice and view me as wise counsel. I hope they laugh with me… and maybe even at me sometimes. 😉 And I truly hope they remember me as a woman that has led them in prayer, wrestles with God’s Word, and loves others well.

Is it always perfect? No… in fact since my oldest son was born my non-pregnant weight has fluctuated 40 pounds in those 13 years. As a mom I’ve been both my “thinnest” and my “heaviest” ever, and while I definitely struggled, I’m honestly not sure they noticed. What I know now is that I am most at peace when I choose to make my physical appearance only one part of all the ways God has made me unique. 

I’ve learned to see myself with the same grace giving eyes that I hope and pray my sons will use to view themselves and others. Ultimately, I know I love and serve others best when I am confident in who I am because I trust the One who made me.

“I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13